Bite Your Tongue: The Podcast

Episodes

114
Dec. 12, 2025

Ways We Sabotage Connection with our Adult Children

Send us a text Ready to upgrade your relationship with your grown kids without losing yourself in the process? We sit down with clinical psychologist and author Dr. Francine Toder author of the amazing book: "Your Kids are Grown: Parenting 2.O." We unpack Parenting 2.0—the shift from managing to relating, from control to connection. If you’ve felt that knot in your stomach after a call, questioned whether your help is actually helpful, or wondered how to be close without be...
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Oct. 31, 2025

Episode Rewind: From Enabling To Empowering: Rethinking Parenting In The Age Of Anxiety

Send us a text We sit down with "therapist to the millennials" Tess Brigham to unpack why the 20s feel overwhelming, how parents can ease anxiety without enabling, and what healthy support looks like in a world of constant comparison and blurred work boundaries. We also share a step‑by‑step plan for tapering financial help and end with three clear takeaways to guide tough conversations. • why questions beat lectures when adult kids call in crisis • social media’s role in comparis...
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Oct. 17, 2025

Grandparenting Without Overstepping: Love, Boundaries, and Listening

Send us a text Please follow us on social media - FACEBOOK and INSTAGRAM -- we are building our brand and need your support! On to today's episode: The first hug goes to your adult child. That simple shift sets the tone for everything that follows—and it’s the heartbeat of our conversation with Donne Davis, founder of the Gaga Sisterhood, who’s spent two decades helping grandparents build steady, loving connections without overstepping. We dive into the messy, modern realities of grand...
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Sept. 19, 2025

Vulnerability Without Judgment: Shifting Parent-Adult Child Dynamics

Send us a text Relationship and Friendship expert Shasta Nelson shares powerful insights on transforming parent-adult child relationships and building meaningful connections throughout life. Emphasizing her Friendship Triangle framework of positivity, consistency, and vulnerability. 1. The Triangle of Healthy Relationships : Shasta introduces a powerful framework for understanding relationships, which consists of three essential components: positivity, consistency, and vul...
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Sept. 5, 2025

Your Adult Child's Boundaries are not a Rejection of You

Send us a text Have you ever sent an impulsive text when feeling rejected by your adult child? That desperate "What did I do wrong?" message that you later regretted? You're not alone. The relationship between parents and their adult children exists on a delicate continuum—from deep connection to painful estrangement and everything in between. Dr. Rachel Glick, relationship specialist and author of "A Soulful Marriage," joins us to unpack the complex dynamics of parent-adult child relationsh...
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Aug. 22, 2025

When They are Little, They Sit on your Lap: When They are Big, they Sit on Your Heart

Send us a text This is one funny episode. Today we interview Susan Engel, a professor of psychology at Williams College and the author of the New York Times Article: When They're Grown, The Real Pain Begins. Joining Denise as co-host is a dear friend Val Haller. Val is the mother of four boys, very similar to the ages of Susan's boys when she wrote this article, so she is our perfect co-host. Susan takes us through her journey when she wrote the a...
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Aug. 8, 2025

From Helicopter to Helper: Navigating Your Child's College Transition and Beyond

Send us a text Growing up doesn't end at 18—it's just beginning. Dr. Sara Klein, Vice President for Student Affairs at Stevens Institute of Technology, delivers a powerful message about the college transition that resonates far beyond freshman year: parents need to back off. After decades of helicopter parenting from preschool through high school, many parents struggle to step back when their children enter college. We've become accustomed to tracking every aspect of our children's lives—fr...
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July 18, 2025

When To Speak Up, When To Bite Your Tongue: Dr. Lawrence Steinberg on Parent-Adult Child Dynamics

Send us a text Dr. Lawrence Steinberg sheds light on the evolving relationship between parents and their adult children in today's challenging economic landscape, offering practical advice on when to speak up and when to bite your tongue. He explains how the elongation of adolescence and unprecedented financial pressures have transformed traditional parent-child dynamics. • Housing costs have risen five times faster than salaries, creating barriers to independence for young adults • Living w...