Episodes

Today we speak with Kerrie Lee Brown, the author of the book My Heart, My Self: A Guide for Women Who Do Too Much. Are you a people pleaser? Do you do too much and neglect yourself? This episode is for you. Does it relate to building healthy relationships with your adult children? You bet it does. Taking care of yourself and your health and learning to say "no," are the exact things that make us good parents - for our children at any age, Kerrie's story spoke to us. We hope it speaks to you...

Happy Father's Day. We hope many father's (and even mother's) listen and take this episode to heart. It's a good one! Today, we welcome Dr. Deryl Goldenberg. We learned about him when we saw an article he wrote called: “The Psychology Behind Strained Father and Son Relationships.” With many years of working with men in therapy, the issues that come up with careers or relationships can often be traced back to their lack of a relationship with their fathers. Goldenberg is a licensed clinical psy...

We sharing our LGBTQ+ episode that we dropped in Season I for Pride Month. It remains one of our favorite episodes. We hope you will listen. Here are the episode notes from the earlier episode: Every time I listen to an episode, I think to myself, "everyone needs to listen to this. There are so many valuable nuggets of information for all of us in every episode." For this episode - I plead with everyone to listen and share it. Many of us think we are progressive and accepting, but to step i...

Hello everyone and welcome to another episode of BITE YOUR TONGUE: The Podcast. You asked for it! This is another episode that answers a listener question! But before we start - think about supporting the podcast and buy us a coffee. That's all it takes. CLICK HERE TO BUY US A COFFEE. This is a quick a very quick refresher course on understanding the LGBTQ+ pronouns and language About a year ago we had of our most emotional episodes about understanding LGBTQ+ with Levi Teachey, President of ...

We are on it! Today we are talking about mothers and daughters! And it begins with the burnt hamburger. But more about that in today’s episode. You will have to listen. A listener wrote: Where have you been for the last 15 years? I have been searching for books, podcasts, and the internet for some real support on parenting adult children. Nothing.” The listener proceeded to ask if we might explore more about the mother/daughter relationship and expressed some of the struggles she was having w...

Today Denise and Ellen welcome Michelle Martinez, who is not only a Certified Wedding Consultant, with more than 20 years in the wedding and events industry, but also the creator and host of the world's mosts popular wedding podcast - The Big Wedding Planning Podcast. With 300 episodes under her belt and nearly three million downloads, she's been around the block a few times! Ellen's daughter is getting married so Ellen has some inside scoop on some of her issues. Michelle helps us see the whol...

You asked for it! This episode is dedicated to the often-complicated relationship with mothers-in-laws and their daughter-in-laws. If you’ve ever felt slighted or wanted more connection than the other is willing to give - this is the episode for you! For several months listeners have asked us to find someone who could talk to us about the mother-in-law, daughter-in-law dynamic. So many layers to all of this. We did some searching and this episode features our interview with Dr. Deanna Brann. ...

Today Ellen and Denise welcome Tess Brigham, a licensed psychotherapist, life coach and former twenty-something. In a recent article from CNBC Tess says: “Over a decade ago, when I first became a therapist, I never expected that five years later, my practice would consist of nearly 90% millennials, with the rest of my patients being parents of millennials.” So she’s got both sides of the story for us. Tess has been featured in major media throughout the US - from the New York Times to O Magazin...

This is a fun episode. Today Denise interviews Stanford grads and Brooklyn comedians Carolyn Doyle and Emily Kop. Always wanting to understand and relate to the younger generation, we found these two 20-somethings by listening to their podcast called OKAY STUPID. While listening Denise found herself gasping as they spoke so personally about their lives - including their sex lives. We wanted to learn more - about them, their podcast, their relationship with their parents and of course, their ge...

Ellen joins Denise in today's episode as we chat with Julia Pimsluer. Denise actually met Julia in a coffee shop in New York and the two began to chat. Julia is a scaling couch, speaker and best-selling author. She is founder of Million Dollar Women, a New York-based social venture, which has helped thousands of women entrepreneurs scale their businesses. Prior to that, she founded and built Little Pim, a language learning program for young children, into a million-dollar company. GO Big Now, J...

Today Ellen and Denise interviewed Judith Smith, the author of a new book called: Difficult: Mothering Challenging Adult Children through Conflict and Change. Judith is a leader in gerontological research focusing on women’s experiences as they age. She is a senior clinical social worker, therapist, and professor at Fordham University. She lives in New York City. Difficult focuses on adult children and takes the unique perspective of the mother. I struggled reading this book and felt such compa...

This is one funny episode. Today we interview Susan Engel, a professor of psychology at Williams College and the author of the New York Times Article: When They're Grown, The Real Pain Begins. Joining Denise as co-host is a dear friend Val Haller. Val is the mother of four boys, very similar to the ages of Susan's boys when she wrote this article so she is our perfect co-host. (more about Val at the end) Susan tells us that this article still gets very much attention and you can see this by j...

WE ARE ON IT! Answering YOUR Questions! Today's Question: How do you handle a situation where your adult child is participating in what you believe is dangerous behavior? They are not getting the COVID Vaccine You suspect they are drinking too much You recognize an abusive relationship These are just a few of the topics we discuss with two experts. The first you may remember from a previous episode (TALK THE TALK) with Dr. Susan Heitler, a renowned relationship therapist. She is best known ...

The parent I hope to be. The Children I hope to raise. We believe that this episode will change everything you think ever thought about parenting. This is one of the most personal interviews we've done. Our vulnerability in raising our own adult children is challenged. On this week's episode we speak with Einat Nathan, parenting expert and best selling author. We talk to her about her recent book, My Everything, was released in Israel in 2018 and become a national bestseller. The book was tran...

Listeners, Enjoy these pearls of wisdom garnered by our amazing guests this year. Thank you to our audio engineer Connie Fisher who brilliantly put this together. We hope you will go to our website biteyourtonguepodcast.com and listen to any of the episodes you missed in the first season. Looking forward to meeting again in 2022. Thanks so much to Connie Gorant Fisher, our audio engineer. Support us P L E A S E! Buy us a coffee: LINK HERE Buy a mug: LINK HERE Great Deal for Listeners! Denise...

Today we speak with the amazing Sarah Morris, a legacy and estate planning attorney in Denver, Colorado. Sarah specializing in wills, trusts, and philanthropy. She was recommended to us by a very trusted friend and listener. When our friend gave Sarah a rating of a 10 +, we knew she was our gal. This is a great episode to listen to with your kids or share the link so they can understand the legal documents that they need to have by the time they are 18-years-old. This is a quick episode that g...

Welcome to another episode of BITE YOUR TONGUE. The is part 2 of "Holidays and your Adult Children." Connie Fisher, our audio engineer co-hosted this episode with Denise. They are sisters and figured that they had spent a lot of time going home for the holidays! So this was a fun episode to record. Ginny offered quite a bit of insightful observations that will get all of us to think: Relationships are dances - and if the parent/child relationship does not evolve (from parent/child to adult/ad...

This is part I of our double whammy holiday episodes. Part 2 will drop on Friday - that's only two days from now. Today we speak with Jane Isay. She is the author of the book Walking on Eggshells, Navigating the Delicate Relationships between Adult Children and Parents. She is a New Yorker from birth and gets right to the point. Have you had enough togetherness during the holidays? "Shut the door," she says. How about when the kids come home, how to make them happy? "Give them the keys!" And...

Today we speak with Jane Adams, PhD and author of the book, When Our Grown Kids Disappoint Us, Letting Go of Their Problems, Loving them Anyways and Getting on with Our Lives." In addition to being an author (of several books) , Jane is a "post-parent" coach. And that is what our podcast is all about. She also has a blog that she updates regularly on Psychology Today. Our dreams for our children begin as soon as they are placed in our arms - "give them a chance to grow up" Jane says, "before you...

For parents of adult children, mental health disease is one of our most frightening thoughts. We are hoping this episode will help us understand, support and accept this disease. This is a fabulous episode. Today we speak with Dr. Elizabeth Cookson (Beth) a psychiatrist who has over 35 years of experience. A former president of the Colorado Psychiatric Society, she is Board Certified in General and Addiction Psychiatry. She has dealt with children and adults of all ages in public psychiatric se...

Special episode with new guest host: Connie Fisher. Connie is usually behind the scenes doing our tech work, but today she joined Denise to talk to Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo. They are the hosts of the #1 marriage podcasts on Apple podcasts called One Extraordinary Marriage. Does this sound like you? Are you and your partner out of sync since you are no longer parenting young children? As your empty nest impacted your marriage? Do you wish for the same level of connection and intimacy you once...

Today we talk to Cameron Huddleston, an award-winning journalist who has been writing for over 20 years on personal finance. US News and World Report named her one of the top finance experts to follow on Twitter. Link to her Twitter feed. She just released an amazing book called, “Mom and Dad, We Need to Talk.” The target for the book is our kids of course, but we switched the conversation with Cameron and called it - “Hey Adult Kids, We Need to Talk.” Here are some of the things we discuss: W...

EPISODE NOTES Joining us today are Nyge Turner and Merk Nguyen, the hosts of the wildly popular podcast - Adult ISH. Produced by YR Media and Radiotopia from PRX, these two young adults have become prominent voices of their generation. This episode they discuss everything from mental health and work ethic to social media and their relationships with their parents. They also bring a bit of diversity to BITE YOUR TONGUE. Nyge is an African American and I found through some research that he alway...

Grandparenting. This episode is for anyone who is a grandparent, has a grandparent in their life - or might soon become a grandparent. Or you just love an exceptional interview with a fabulous guest! We welcome Julie Dolan Smith, one of the legendary Satellite Sisters. With over 20-years in the radio/podcast industry, Julie has now taken on the alter ego of “Urban Nana.” With 10 grandchildren and years of experience, her wit and wisdom will make you laugh. and think. We explore with Julie many...